How to be present with her

“I shouldn’t have to tell you!” your wife yells angrily, 
“You should just know that I need help!”
 
You turn away from her, confused what to do. The electricity in the room feels like a storm about to erupt.
 
Your impulse is to yell back and "correct" her irrational behavior:
1. To make her finally understand that you can't read her mind!
2. To instruct her that if she would just TELL YOU what she needed, you would do it!
 
You are familiar with this hole of resentment. Your wife yells, blaming you. You want to prove your point for the thousandth time. You know defending yourself, will only dig you into a deeper hole.
 
Your wife's next words shoot pangs of anxiety through your guts, pushing you further out of your heart and into your monkey mind thoughts.
 
"You are NEVER there for me."
"I have to manage the house and the kids all by myself."
"You don't even care. I feel so alone."
 
You wonder:
* Is she acting this way because you weren’t present with her when you came home from work but instead turned on the game?
* Is she right when she says, “You are never there for me. I feel so alone?"
* Is her pain, stress, and anxiety ultimately your fault?
 
In this moment, a kingly, grounded, skilled man will breathe deeply and reset himself.
 
Feel your head, your heart, your balls, and calibrate your thinking:
 
1. Your goal is to not follow your wife's emotional tide and get swept into her current.
2. You can be present with your wife while not getting swayed by her roller coaster of her daily experience.
3. You bring into your vision your Kingly Purpose of blooming the feminine moment to moment.
 
What makes a woman feel incredibly safe :
The deep feminine energy of your wife doesn’t need you to be 100% present at all times. 
 
In fact, if you were always excruciatingly attuned to her every nuance and shade of emotion, she would live in a survivalist fear that one day your Masculine Presence might disappear completely, like a Protector Warrior heading off to battle and never returning.
 
Instead, a woman builds her sense of safety and trust in a relationship through the daily dance of space and reconnection. She will learn through the daily dance of intimacy, no matter what, your Masculine Presence will always return to her.
 
She can build stamina within herself and an acceptance of the different feeling states of her world when she learns that your "Head, Heart, Balls, & Breath" will always return.
 

Watch this video to find out how you can be self-actualized with your wife and provide her the masculine presence she craves

* She doesn’t want to be with a monk, she likes an emotional adventure
* She feels safe when she knows your presence will always return to her
* She is not a nun, it’s exciting for her to share the different colors of herself with you

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